Words are powerful

If you simply can’t understand why someone is grieving so much for a pet, consider yourself lucky you don’t understand.”

Powerful words.

For many of us, losing a pet is one of the most painful experiences we will ever go through. Our pets are not “just animals” – they are family, confidants, companions, and often our biggest source of unconditional love. Grief is grief, and when it comes to our beloved pets, it can feel every bit as overwhelming as losing a human loved one.

That is why the words we choose when comforting someone who has lost a pet matter so much. Even well-intentioned comments can unintentionally minimise their pain and make them feel isolated in their grief.

Things

not

to say to someone who has lost a pet

❌ “It was just a dog/cat.”

To the grieving person, their pet was never “just” anything.

❌ “At least you can get another one.”

Each pet is unique. Suggesting they can be “replaced” disregards the bond that was lost.

❌ “It’s not the same as losing a person.”

Grief does not need to be compared or ranked. Loss is loss, and it hurts deeply.

❌ “You should be over it by now.”

There is no timeline for grief. Healing takes as long as it takes.

❌ “They had a good long life, so you should be happy.”

Even after a full life, saying goodbye is devastating. Love does not lessen because of years.

What you

can

say instead

✅ “I’m so sorry for your loss.”

✅ “They were such a special part of your life.”

✅ “I know how much you loved them.”

✅ “I’m here if you want to talk or share memories.”

Simple, compassionate words validate the grief and offer comfort.

💜 The truth is, grief for a pet is real, raw, and worthy of the same respect and care as any other loss. By choosing our words carefully, we can help someone feel seen in their pain rather than alone in it.